Hi Tanya!
Wow I’m so sorry to hear what you’re dealing with! Oh geez, That feeling when you catch people STARING and then they look away. Yuck! Poor honey! You probably feel like you said or did something wrong but I know you didn’t! Blocked you from facebook? Strange. She sounds miserable. Perhaps her life is not fun or very restricted? Cultural? Or is she just a B!tch? She probably acts like she’s “too good to talk to you” You might as well have some fun with it. My mother in law treats me this way, never smiles, looks at me like I have news headlines written on my face and looks away too. I just stop trying. As soon as you stop trying and make sure you have a good time by enjoying your own company and other relatives. I used to cringe alone time with my mother-in-law, now I enjoy being myself not caring. Be strong. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this!
Jen

The saddest part is because of all the bad treatment I’ve received from women (especially older women who used to be hot), I’m loath now to join book clubs and other events I might like because they’re female-dominant and it never ends well. Men are absolutely lovely to me, but women? Unless it’s an absurdly pretty girl, I might as well be a leper.

It’s funny sometimes how stunningly beautiful women will just start talking to me out of the blue. They must be so starved for friendship and so wary of plainer women’s shit, that when they see another looker, it’s ‘Hey, bosom buddy!’ I was in the supermarket one day and this girl with her group (absolutely modelesque, gorgeous blonde) walks past and she just says hi to me and talks to me as if we’ve known each other for years. A complete stranger! It floored me. Then I remembered I live in a town with very few younger, hot women, and most of the chicks around here are cold and unfriendly to younger women, especially pretty ones.

Almost without exception, the women who’ve been angelic to me in workplaces in the past have been knockouts. I don’t even try to befriend them; we just gravitate to each other. Most of my current friends could easily be models. The hottest and smartest one of all is also the one who’s been the nicest to me.

I’m at the point now where I won’t even bother trying to be friends with a woman unless she’s drop-dead gorgeous AND has an amazing personality. I’ve decided life is too short and there are too many spectacular people in the world for me NOT to take this approach. Why shouldn’t I have friends who treat me well?

Meanwhile, I try not to piss off the rest. When I walk past a woman with her man, whether she’s pretty or not, I ignore the guy and smile at her. In my mind, it accomplishes two things: firstly, the woman will feel better about herself (you’re not only checking her out, you’re not trying to flirt with her man); secondly, the guy will see you smiling at his girl and whether or not he thinks you’re gay, it will raise his girl in his estimation and he will respect her more, as it adds to her mystique. This is a full-proof method, and it’s not hard to do because usually the chicks look loads better than their guys anyway.

Female jealousy and competitiveness can make life hell, but what’s even worse is letting yourself be less than your best because of fearing the backlash. Confidence is the best defence. They back off when they see nothing can ever bring you down. It just makes them realise what absolute losers they are, and if they’re not fools on top of that, they usually stop the antics and grow up.

Hi Sharon,
Honored to have a national and international figure skater on my blog! Yes, keep smiling and most importantly be KIND and respectful. When a group of ladies are having a “bitch fest” and you do something nice for them or show genuine kindness, (the most beautiful thing) it will usually melt even the coldest of hearts. For example, this weekend out with my husband – this group of ladies were checking me out head to toe staring at me so hard it felt like like daggers… I was having a happy day smiling. I could hear them talking shit about me… I only had one item and offered them to go ahead of me. I smiled. They went right ahead of me looking at me in disgust. It was funny. I just laugh. My husband noticed too. For him to say something about noticing confirms how bitter some women truly are. Take care. Remember to smile. (they don’t like to see you happy)